The Weekend Blog | Moving on

23rd January 2016

The Weekend Blog | Moving on

Rarely a week goes by when my life isn’t filled with drama of some sort.

This week, Tyrone ended up in A&E. He had a temperature, was being sick and couldn’t stop shaking. We still don’t know what the cause of his illness was, but because one doctor suspected it might be Viral Meningitis poor Tyrone was subjected to a ton of tests. Fortunately, he didn’t have to be kept in over night.

Personally, I don’t think the levels of stress we have been subjected to recently have helped.

As it all kicked off in the early hours of the morning, I had to take a day of sick leave. Tyrone went back to Shropshire after the whole ordeal to get some serious rest, and as I had already booked Friday as a holiday I decided to go home too.

My health is something I value dearly. In the last 4 months I have experienced more panic attacks than ever before and I have had to start taking medication for my anxiety. And now that Tyrone has been affected so badly by the stress of living next to anti-social neighbour, to the point where he ended up in hospital, well, it’s really made us think about our health as well as our happiness.

It is for this reason that Tyrone and I have decided to look for somewhere else to live. We cannot afford to buy a house yet, so we are looking at the possibility of renting a house on the outskirts of the city; potentially on the other side of the Mersey. We have our first house viewing on Tuesday.

I love Liverpool and I will always want to be close to the city, but living right in the centre was always going to be problematic. I will miss the convenience of being so close to the shops and in walking distance of a cinema, but I’m sure we will be happier being away from people who just want to party 24/7.

In a way, I feel like we’ve let our neighbour win. It feels as if we are being penalised for living next to someone who is breaking the law, whereas it’s not our fault at all.

In other ways I feel like we are the ones who are winning. While we will not own our home (not just yet, anyway) we will be able to start living a more normal life. We will be able to prepare for when we do buy our own home by purchasing large furniture and appliances that we will be able to take with us. We will be able to buy a car. We will be able to enjoy a garden for the first time in 2 and a half years.

It’s something that I am both nervous and excited about. I didn’t think I would be saying anything like this at the end of 2015, but it’s funny where life takes us sometimes.

I’ll keep you up to date with our research and planning, and hopefully some day soon I will come back to you with some good news.

Have a great weekend!

(The photos above are of our flat shortly after we moved in. It was so lovely back then.)

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  1. Kat

    Oh dear I’m sorry to hear things have been stressful for you lately.

    I hope you find somewhere nice, I know exactly how you feel with noisy neighbours. We had them when we lived in our flat and it was a nightmare, I felt exactly the same, the anxiety of not knowing when they were going to act up next, the dread of a weekend where you just want a good nights sleep and you know they’re going to kick off.

    Probably a silly question but have you tried complaining to the council? We did that and they were very good we kept a diary and then they gave them a warning and gave us a number to call if we had issues after that and they’d come out to our flat and listen to it.

    I absolutely understand though why you’re moving whilst you shouldn’t have to move because of some inconsiderate people sometimes you have to concede for your own health and happiness, I don’t think you’ll regret it too much when you can get some peace and quiet.
    Take care! x

    • Holly

      Thank you. πŸ™‚ It’s horrible, isn’t it.

      We have been in touch with the council but unfortunately this week I found out that the night noise team have had their funding cut and so they can’t even help us anymore. We’ve been in touch with his letting agency as well but they were just vile to me and made me feel like I was in the wrong.

      The house we are going to visit is a semi in a quiet street so we are keeping our fingers crossed that it’s as good as it looks on Zoopla!

  2. I hope you’ll find a perfect home soon. I don’t think your neighbour wins, he will still be there and you’ll have your bigger house and privacy and car and so on. Having large appliances and furniture is important when you are buying a house, so I think it’s a step in the right direction.

    • Holly

      Thank you. πŸ™‚ I love the look of the one we are going to see on Tuesday so I just hope it lives up to our expectations.

  3. You’re right. Your health is more important and I’m glad that this incident, however bad it was, let you understand that. Please, you and Tyrone take care and I hope that you find somewhere nice to live at <3

    • Holly

      Thank you so much Michelle. πŸ™‚ The one good thing to come out of this whole incident is realising that I can live somewhere better.

  4. Your health and happiness is the most important thing here, so don’t go thinking that you’ve let this neighbour win because you haven’t, you’re simply making the choice to put yourself into a happier situation. City living really does have it’s perks and drawbacks, just like living anywhere would. Remember, just because you’re moving out of the city doesn’t mean you won’t still find bad neighbours, so if you do go to view the house, try and pop back to the street at different times, especially of an evening and weekend, to see if it’s still as quiet!

    Good luck!
    Sarah πŸ™‚
    Saloca in Wonderland

    • Holly

      Thank you. πŸ™‚ We are visiting the house in the evening after work and as we are meeting the current tenant I intend on asking all about the area and the neighbours.

  5. How scary! I hope Tyrone is feeling better! Health is really important, so even though it’s a tough decision, I think you made the right one. Noisy neighbors are the worst. My old studio was a great apartment, but my neighbors were horrible. I had to call the police on them before because they were brawling in the street and in the stairway. I hope things will be a bit less stressful for you once you move away. :/

    Best of luck finding a house that works for you guys. It may not be what you want yet, but it can be a lot of fun picking out furniture and decorating and you can bring all of that stuff with you when you guys are ready to buy a house! We have slowly been building up our small apartment with some new furniture that we want to take with us when we move. It spreads out the costs quite a bit!

    It’s a shame you have to move- the flat you have now looks so cute!

    • Holly

      Thank you. πŸ™‚ In the UK the police have no authority when it comes to noise issues, and now that thI council’s night noise team have been cut we have absolutely no one to help us. It feels very lonely.

      You’re right, it will definitely help spread the cost. Renting a house will also help us to learn about what we want in a house when the time comes to buy one.

  6. Amy

    Hope Tyrone is okay! It’s really not good that you’ve had to deal with that, and, even though it may slow down getting a mortgage, it will make your life more bearable for the next few years. Noisy neighbours are the worst, especially if they’re ruining your entire weekend.

    We’ve just started having problems with the neighbours in the flats we’re living in. They had a really noisy party the other week – they had their door open with the music on full blast so I couldn’t go anywhere in the flat or do anything without hearing it. There were about 30 people in the corridor and outside my door (we have no hallway) and a girl had passed out in front of the main entrance. Luckily, we’ve handed the notice in already (because we had mould, so don’t know how lucky it is), but we still shouldn’t have to deal with that. Some people are just inconsiderate.

    If you move away from the centre it should be a lot quieter anyway. Sadly, idiots tend to live in city centres, which makes it hell for any nice people who want to have a life of convenience. Good luck with your house search!

    • Holly

      Definitely! It shouldn’t slow us down too much, but it should be worth it.

      Oh no, that sounds terrible. It’s as if nobody has any respect for their neighbours anymore. I guess I don’t get it because I grew up next to such lovely neighbours. In fact, my parents’ old neighbours are my god parents!

  7. Shaw

    It sucks that you and Tyrone have to endure so much. It’s really inconsiderate of them. I don’t even understand why some people need to party that much. You might have let them win, but victory is not important. I hope you find a great place with great neighbours and that Tyrone gets better.

    • Holly

      Honestly, he’s the most inconsiderate person I’ve ever met – and that’s saying something! He didn’t even care when I asked him to keep the noise down because I was ill. He sympathetically said “I’ll turn it down” but then 5 minutes later he turned it back up again!

  8. Jamie

    I am sorry to hear that Tyrone got sick, I hope he feels better soon! I also hope that you will feel better soon, too! I honestly don’t think you have let this neighbor of yours win. They will get karma one way or the other. Believe it or not, my boyfriend has a bi-polar uncle who likes to be confrontational with him and myself. He (the uncle) has this “I’m better than you” attitude, and what happens? Tristan and I got our window fixed and some other good things, while his (the uncle) window hasn’t been fixed and he’s been hitting negativity all the way. So don’t worry, while you and Tyrone are getting healthier in your new flat, this neighbor will get their karma.

    • Holly

      I believe in karma, I really do. I hope someone else catches him being so inconsiderate, and I hope that something good comes out of us moving.

  9. Cat

    Oh no, I hope Tyrone is feeling better πŸ™ That’s scary to be ill and have to go through a bunch of tests. That’s also terrible that your neighbor continues to be rude and cause you guys so much stress. Hopefully other people continue complaining about him after you move out.

    Your happiness and health are definitely important though! Renting a house sounds like a great idea. Instead of thinking of him winning, you can think of it as being one step closer to your goal of owning a house πŸ˜€ That’s exciting that you have your first house viewing soon. Good luck!

    • Holly

      Thank you. πŸ™‚ I think it would be really interesting to see if the next person to live in our flat has as many problems as we did.

  10. Ella

    I hope that you and Tyrone get better and that the two of you are able to find a nice place to stay!

    Living in the outskirts of the city isn’t all that bad. Unfortunately, I’ve been doing so my entire life so I can’t really compare it to living in the centre. But I can guarantee that it’ll be quieter, more spacious and you’ve got a better chance to find some peace. Just imagine spending some time outside in that garden you’ve mentioned! =)

    • Holly

      Thank you. πŸ™‚ I went from living in a very rural town straight to living in the middle of a city, so I think living on the outskirts will be a nice compromise.

      The thought of a garden excites me so much!

  11. Oh God! I think instead of letting that neighbour trouble your lives so much, it is better if you decide to move some where calmer, because as it is our lives are stressed, so if there are solutions to problems like these, we should go for it!
    I hope the new place meets your requirements and proves to be a better place to live!

  12. Holly, I’m so sorry to hear about all of this. I hope Tyrone has recovered from what sounds like a horrible experience, and you and him have had some much needed relaxing time.
    As you said, your health is the top priority, and though it’s not something you should be forced to do, moving away from that dreadful neighbour sounds like it’s the right idea. I hope all of your house viewings go well and you find somewhere with a much nicer community to settle down in for the time being, There are some wonderful houses and flats over the other side – I’m wanting to move out of the city centre soon myself. I can’t deal with anymore fights outside my flat of a weekend!

    Hope you’re both okay now! x

    • Holly

      Thank you. πŸ™‚ I really don’t know the areas surrounding Liverpool that well so it’s challenging to work out where is nice and safe to live.

      The fights sound awful. The city centre is a lovely place but it’s not ideal for living.

  13. Susanne

    Renting a house sounds like a wonderful idea! That’s an opportunity that isn’t available in many other countries as far as I know, other than holiday houses, at least I’ve only heard about renting houses long term in the UK and Ireland. I think it’s a great thing being able to live in a house although you can’t yet afford to buy one. We rented a house when we lived in Ireland, and I’m so thankful for that (although the house was freezing cold, but that’s another story). Good luck with finding a good one!!!

    • Holly

      I didn’t know that. But yes, a house will be so much better than a flat. It will give some experience of maintaining a house and a garden ready for when I finally buy my own.

  14. I definitely feel like you are winning. πŸ˜€ You will be in a much happier place once you find the right place for you. I’m sorry that your current place wasn’t the perfect one, but I’m sure nothing, and no matter where you go, will change your love for Liverpool! You’ve made a mature decision to do what is best.

    Hope you’re not too far though, I still want us to meet! <3 I was just planning our short trip there and where we’ll go, kinda familiarising myself with all the different areas. It looks like we’ll be around Albert Dock a lot – lots of stuff to do there, it seems!

    • Holly

      Thank you. πŸ™‚

      Oh yeah, I will still be really close to the city centre as I work just outside of it. The house we really like is 10 minutes away on the train, so I will definitely be able to meet up with you when you visit! I am so excited!! Everything in Liverpool is pretty close together so it’s easy to see and do everything in a day or two. Albert Dock is one of my favourite parts of the city.

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