My thoughts on blogging…secret blogging
23rd June 2016
Some people choose to blog in secret. Some choose to use a pseudonym online, while some choose not to tell their friends or family.
And I totally get it, because I’ve been there.
For years I kept my blog a secret. I didn’t tell my family or friends that I was writing a blog, learning to code and building websites. It was all hush-hush.
I was embarrassed about telling people about what I did in my spare time. I was about 14 years old when I started using Piczo and I thought that most people my age would think that building websites was lame. I also thought that my family, who are all older than me, wouldn’t get it, and think that a 14 year old should be doing better things with her life. Not to mention the fact I was talking to “strangers” online.
I do remember mentioning my online space to my very close friends, but I just assumed they wouldn’t “get” it, so I avoided the topic quite a lot.
The first person in my life I spoke to about my blog and web development interest was Tyrone. And I’m 99% sure it was before we started dating. Tyrone and I had been talking on MSN for many many months before we became a couple, and during this time we got to know each other a lot better. He asked me “wwup2?” and I replied “Working on my website.”.
And just like that I had broken the silence on my blog.
It was one thing admitting I had a website, but a whole other thing sharing the link to said website. Luckily Tyrone thought it was pretty cool, and has been supportive from day one.
Little did he know at the time but 7 years on I would be pestering him to take photos of me all in the name of blogging!
I think my family and friends started to find out about my blog when I began sharing links to my blog on Twitter, which was probably when I was in college, or maybe even as late as when I started university. I would go into a completely meltdown when people said they had read my blog and panic about what I had published, but honestly, I don’t think I’ve ever experienced any negativity or backlash from telling people about my blog.
It’s not like I bitch about people here. Or at least not anymore…lol
As blogging became more popular, more people started to understand what it was all about. If I’d said to someone at a job interview 10 years ago (hypothetically, because I would have been 12!) that I wrote a blog, I doubt an employer would have cared. Nowadays though, if you say you write a blog then most employers will know what you do and the skills you have.
I first put my blog down on my CV when I applied for a job as an Insight Leader; a job which partly involved writing a blog about student life. Of course, I got those horrible feelings of embarrassment and shame, but in the end it helped me to get the job. Ever since then I have kept it on my CV and will happily talk about it at interviews because I know it’s something to be proud of, not to be ashamed of.
I’m still not totally confident in admitting to people I have a blog. I’ve never shared a link to my blog on Facebook that my “friends” could see in fear that someone would take the piss, but really, should I care about those people who don’t support me?
“Don’t worry about the people who aren’t happy for you. They probably aren’t happy for themselves either.”
However, nothing means more to me than when someone I know, whether that be a friend, a family member or a colleague, says to me “I read your blog and I liked it.”. And as someone who has benefited in life from telling people about my blog, I know that being a non-secret blogger can be amazing too.
Are you a secret blogger? Or are you “out and proud”?!
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