Don’t recreate memories…make new ones
2nd July 2015
During my Mediterranean cruise, the ship called at a lot of ports that I had already visited with my parents three years ago when we went on a cruise together.
I will never forget calling in Ajaccio in Corsica, walking around the beautiful town and calling at a restaurant by the harbour for a giant bowl of mussels. Sharing those mussels with my parents is such a significant memory for me. It was a perfect day, making new and great memories.
So, before I returned to Corsica last month, my parents asked if I was going to recreate the memory by returning to that very restaurant and eating mussels again.
I genuinely thought I would recreate this memory, but when we arrived in Corsica I had no desire to do so.
I realised that I didn’t want to recreate the memory, because it was that initial memory that was so special to me. It wouldn’t have been special the second time around.
Things change. People change. Life never stays still.
Take the pictures above. The one on the left was taken when I visited Corsica in 2012 with my parents, and the one of the right was taken almost in the same spot when I visited last month with Tyrone. Clearly the boat has disappeared, and this kind of made me sad.
Three years before I stood their with my parents and we had our photo taken (which you can see in this post). Three years on I managed to find my way, without getting lost, to this exact spot with Tyrone to show him, but it just wasn’t the same.
It was a similar situation in Rome and Florence. When I had visited both cities with my parents we ate at certain restaurants and visited certain shops. It would have been easy to do exactly the same this time around, but we didn’t.
Instead of recreating old memories, we made new ones.
I learnt a life lesson from this holiday. I learnt that memories are special for a reason, and attempting to recreate them won’t be the same. It won’t be as special.
The world is a big place with lots for you to do and to see. Why waste time on old memories while you can make new ones to add to the collection?
Have you ever tried to recreate a memory? If you have, how did it feel?